There are some situations that you just don't see coming.....especially the one I experienced last week. So here's the skinny. In pursuing one of my jobs as an independent consultant teaching zumba classes, I came across an opportunity that seemed as if it was perfect. It was a perfect location, would expand my business, and bring in major dough (i.e money). So, I thought, awesome. All along the way, I'd discuss my thoughts with my husband and get his take as I don't commit to stuff without his input or discussing it with him....especially when our decisions affect the household. We are a team and everyone needs to know what all team players are doing. It's like playing volley ball on the same team, and then you guys are both going for the ball, but both stop short thinking the other person is going to get it. I always hated when that happened. So that's why we communicate before we commit.
Getting back to the situation....so the deal was going somewhat well and then it came time to sign the contract. Now, instead of signing the contract in the office, I told the person that I would be taking the contract home to also review it with my husband. When I tell you this guy, went off...he went off. I guess it was his trigger, me discussing the contract over with, as he put it, a "third party." A person once told me that your response in intense situations are locators of who you really are. So during that situation I told him a couple of things.... 1. My husband and I are a team. 2. I have every right to ponder over a legal document before signing it. 3. He doesn't have to agree with me I just ask he respect my family (talking about my husband "nit picky," etc. is offffffff limits).
Needless to say, although he forwarded me the contract that same evening after going off on me, I declined the contract. I realize that I truly value my family and my husband over a lucrative job offer. It's funny because I didn't realize it right then until my husband said, Wow you love me that much. I think the moral of this story ...if there is one....sometimes it's not in the things that we say but it's in the unexpected moments that our love is demonstrated to our loved ones.
Getting back to the situation....so the deal was going somewhat well and then it came time to sign the contract. Now, instead of signing the contract in the office, I told the person that I would be taking the contract home to also review it with my husband. When I tell you this guy, went off...he went off. I guess it was his trigger, me discussing the contract over with, as he put it, a "third party." A person once told me that your response in intense situations are locators of who you really are. So during that situation I told him a couple of things.... 1. My husband and I are a team. 2. I have every right to ponder over a legal document before signing it. 3. He doesn't have to agree with me I just ask he respect my family (talking about my husband "nit picky," etc. is offffffff limits).
Needless to say, although he forwarded me the contract that same evening after going off on me, I declined the contract. I realize that I truly value my family and my husband over a lucrative job offer. It's funny because I didn't realize it right then until my husband said, Wow you love me that much. I think the moral of this story ...if there is one....sometimes it's not in the things that we say but it's in the unexpected moments that our love is demonstrated to our loved ones.
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